Understanding: #beFABULOUSyou Friday

You mad?

Why? Why you mad? Huh?

Because of what they been doing? Or she could’ve done. Because of what he did. Because of what you didn’t do. Now you heated. And disappointed. And maaaaaaaad. Plus angry. Let down. And upset, pissed off, agitated. And it’s justifiable. It makes sense. You don’t have any other choice. Your only option is to feel the way you feel. Right? Holding onto the fury; hugging it tight. Digging deep and making a home in rage. Glorying in your justifiable in·dig·na·tion. Because of what they doing and/or he did and/or what she could have (and should have) done and/or what you did not do. Right? RIGHT?


You got other options. Let go of being enraged. Invest energy in nation building after connecting with your indignation. Don’t just be furious, be fabulous. Don’t be mad; be happy.

Be happy because we are people who are going places. Always have. And we are doing thangs. As per our usual. We are on mission. On purpose. We are each here to be about our traditional business of being our fabulous selves. We have work to do, joy to share, assignments to complete, fun to have, people to serve, smiles to give, and places to go. As is our legacy. And “mad” is not on the agenda.

Yup. Accept that they do what they do. And he did do what he did. And that she did what she did. And accept that you did what you did, too. Understand that it is what it is. Accepting is not co-signing or agreeing or celebrating. Acccepting is understanding that situations are what they are; life is what it is; people are who we are. Let us see, know, and understand things wholistically. Accept all of what life is. Throughout time and space. Let us access calmly and clearly. Straight, no chaser. In totality. Fully and fabulously.

Understand that we are and life is and others are and this situation is… Well, dynamic. Alive. Complex. Subtle. In progress. And our freedom comes through understanding. Accepting the reality of light with dark. So-called bad with good. Understanding that sometimes what we want to happen or to be will not happen and will not be AND that sometimes what we do not want to happen or to be will happen and will be. And still we get to keep moving. Dancing. Creating through life. With life. And GOoD.

We just ascertain who, what, WHERE we are honestly. How else can we be at peace? How else can we be in joy? How else can you be fabulous you? How else can we move and grow and develop and progress?

You have a vision of being at point “p”. In order to implement an effective and efficient strategy to get there (to point “p”), you’ve got to determine where you actually are. One strategy makes sense if you are currently at point “m”. A totally different strategy makes since if you are at point “b” or point “u”. So we must know exactly who and where we are. And make peace with it. So we can keep on moving and growing and developing and progresing.

Mad doesn’t get us closer to the vision. Mad does not advance the agenda. Mad can be an occasional detour, but mad certainly is not our destination. So be mad when and if you need to. Get heated. Be angry. Feel let down. Experience your disappointment. Be upset and agitated and pissed off. Then understand. Overstand. Innerstand. Outerstand. And be fabulous you. (And check out my thoughts on video.)

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